After Thirty-four Years

Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn are still together, but they’ve never bothered to tie the knot.  How exactly has their relationship lasted so long?

Goldie Hawn is in the news as she promotes her newest film, Snatched. Despite her talent as an actor and dedication as a activist, in her interviews she’s mostly asked the secret of her relationship with her long-term partner, Kurt Russell. Goldie’s answer is earnest, simple and delightful, “Love, gratitude, compassion, because sometimes every man or every woman will drive their partner crazy. Family. Fun. Laughs. Sex,” Hawn says. “If you don’t nurture that, and remember, you’re done.” Very likely “that” referred to the sexual aspect of relationships.

Maybe it’s not any of our business, but it is hard not to wonder if they have been true to one another all this time, especially since they aren’t married. After all we really don’t actually know the rules of their unusual relationship. Goldie addresses this  intimate topic in a surprisingly open manner. “Monogamy is a very tough order,” says Goldie. “You’re in the prime of your life, you are attracted to other people, potentially, you have fantasies about that. It really runs the risk, if you will, if you’re not aware that you could maybe screw up a really good thing by doing that.” Presumably, the “that” to which she is referring is sexual infidelity.

The key to staying together monogamously, she says, is how you deal with these particular feelings. “I’m sure I’ve been party to it, and Kurt’s been—we’re all normal this way. It’s like, ‘You really liked that guy, didn’t you?’ Or the woman says, ‘You were looking at her.’ My answer would be, ‘Of course. Why not? She’s beautiful.’ Would you want a man who doesn’t look? Who doesn’t feel inspired by the beauty or the curves of a woman’s body? Or the way she is? I mean, come on. We’re human beings. There is, I guess, an elasticity to the relationship. Otherwise it’s going to break, just like a rubber band.” And “that” was all “that” was said about “that”!

Goldie Hawn

Kurt Russell

It could be that the “elasticity” in Kurt and Goldie’s relationship comes naturally to them, and it may be something not be as easy for other couples to achieve. The source of this emotional “give and take” comes from the water element linking their Sun Signs. These fluid energies allow them to OUTWARDLY share feelings and support one another. Still they are very different. Kurt as a Pisces, appears exceptionally laid back, but is truly sensitive, caring and thin skinned. Goldie, as a Scorpio, comes across as quirky, but is essentially passionate, committed and deep.

From our Dayology vantage point, we must point out that when a couple has different Sun Signs and Day Rays, they require a lot of space to get along. With different INNER and OUTER rulers, they require unique experiences to satisfy their individual spiritual and physical needs. Kurt was born on Saturday, which adds solidity and seriousness to his nature. Goldie came into the world on Wednesday making her a thinker and communicator. To achieve INWARD satisfaction partners with four different rulers must be true to themselves and allow each other to do the same.

UPDATE – The romance between Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russel was a bit shocking in the beginning because there was five years difference in their ages and Goldie was the older of the two. They surprised everyone by living together for 34 years without the benefit of marriage. There were reports that they built a home with separate wings for each of them. Now it has emerged that the two of them have been living separate lives and now have separated “after being torn apart by years of raging jealousy, secret affair scandals and non-stop fights.”

Why are we not surprised to hear that this established couple Hollywood couple has split up? Mainly because it was difficult to conceive of a relationship with so few commitments. Despite their “history” and their “family involvements” all that held them tight was “the desire to be together.” While marriage is no guarantee of anything it is a “promise” to remain as a couple as things change and “try” to make things work. So there was always the prospect of “an open door” and little incentive to heal the issues in their relationship.