How Random are Relationships?

What brings a couple together? What keeps them together?

There is no ONE way to meet perspective partners. It used to be that our romantic interests were discovered in our communities like school, church or workplace. Outside of traditional cultures that arrange marriages, today people are pretty much on their own as they choose life partners.

Lately the Internet has taken to introducing available people based on mostly external considerations. Some of these dating services function better than others.  Another trend which is gaining some ground is matchmaking. It may be that these paid busy-bodies have a reasonable record of success because they become familiar with the desires and needs of the people they match up. And some traditional cultures  follow the dictates of “the stars” in introducing available folks.

More folks then ever are living together without conventional ties. Actually over 50 percent of cohabiting couples do move on to marriage. Still these unions do not thrive like as couples who are formally engaged. The rates of divorce for married cohabiting couples is five times greater than for married non-cohabiting pairs. Why might this be? Greater financial insecurity, higher occurrences of infidelity and raising young children of informal arrangements all take their toll on relationships.

And “happily ever after” does not automatically follow the marriage ceremony. According to statistics almost 50 percent of all first marriages in the U.S. end in separation or divorce. Take a long breath! Second and third marriages are even less likely to succeed. The reasons for divorce are disruptive issues which couples are not willing to face.  Irreconcilable differences are the most common grounds for divorce.

Now how does Dayology fit in? We will not be able to tell what part the Day Ray and Sun Sign  patterns actually occur in human relationships until we have conducted extensive Dayology Research. We are finding that relationships among famous people appear to follow certain identifiable harmonious and disharmonious astrological patterns. Our feature Celebrity Pairs lists a number of well-known individuals and their personal relationships.

Our conclusion is that relationships are considerably less random than we might suppose. The “starry” chemistry or magnetism that contributes to strong attraction and loving commitment in relationships has yet to be proven, but we certainly have the social structures to bring us together and hold us in place, if we care to utilize them.